I’ve said it many times and I’ll say it again…if you met me six years ago, you’d never catch me dead somewhere by myself. Even walking down the street in a populated area alone made me nervous. I moved back to Petaluma relatively against my will at 25. After a gnarly break up I didn’t leave the house besides for work for months. The thought of facing anyone seemed devastating. I had actually had forgotten how to smile. Alright it is coming, I am posting a photo of my ex…that wasn’t a bad photo, it was my inability to smile even during one of the most amazing experiences of my life…
January 1, 2018 celebrates my fifth year in business. This is somewhat of an arbitrary date as I had been consulting to it prior, but it's an important date to me. My business, after all, has been the longest intimate relationship I've ever been in. In small business standards, the seven year mark is statistically significant as you have a higher likelihood of succeeding. What started as a dream sitting at a table with a glass wine and would continue at more then one dinner table has now lasted through three re-brandings, an incorporation, and most recently an office remodel. This is just the surface...
THE SOCIAL MEDIA BEAST
One has the right to choose how they use their social media outlets. One also has an amazing opportunity to share their voice on this huge international stage. Social media is making people sick, literally. While I believe till this day that it was created to connect us, the data shows it is, often times, contributing to the isolationist culture that is being created throughout the "developed" world. It is creating a world as seen through a filter. Instagram, a collection of glorious pictures, has been shown to be the worst of the social media outlets with regard to people's mental health. This isn't shocking to me. It is a seemingly fabricated existence of individuals that creates a feeling in others that they are less than and sometimes even making people combative and defensive. In many ways, social media has worsened our inability to communicate; however, it doesn't have to
I always blog best and apparently start companies while angry. What it took today was the implication that I was a liar, so here we go…I will speak from the American female point of view because well, that’s my point of view. As always I tell my story. This is an admittedly scattered commentary, far away from my normal highly focused blog.
As I prepare to write my memoir, the more significant circumstances I’ve felt have come to the surface and this is one of them. I’ve kept my mouth shut for years, but recent happenings have forced the sharing of this story.
I posted a video a while back reflecting on change (which can be found publicly posted on the DG the 30 Something Facebook Page). The response was varied, but generally people took it very personally and solely with regard to romantic relationships. That response and many conversations I’ve had following posting of that video, I felt the need to expand. Those who know me know I've spent half my life studying human behavior and take special interest in how people process feelings, community, and resiliency. This blog will reflect and distinguish different types of change as I feel we commonly misconstrue our assumptions of change and how people change.
I have always gotten along and loved children. I have worked with them throughout my career starting at 15 working at a summer camp. Today I went to Sonoma to enjoy my wine club and the momentary sun among the severe weather lately in Northern CA. Noir always serves as a great icebreaker who was raised to be a non-medical service dog which means he can take tugs, pulls, and loves children. Today a little boy took a special liking to me. He must have been 7-8, but had no hesitation starting a convo with me. His parents tried to pull him back but I re-assured them that it was ok that he wanted to spend time with myself and my dog. He was well manored and very interested in Noir. We had a conversation about Noir's food interests and his sociability. Also, the girls in the group spent time snuggling and petting Noir. The parents were intensly thankful for the time I spend with their children while I had an awesome respect for the fact that they brought their kids with them wine tasting.
What a year we had. Why not start this blog off with some numerology? I've always been into algebra based math and numbers. I'm the kind of person who looks at clocks and addresses as I walk down the street trying to come up with as many mathematical combinations as possible. The Number 27 is an important one to me:
Well, what does one do as they approach age 30? If you are me you write.
Many know my story. I come from a middle class family and from parents who worked to take us from “lower class” to “upper middle class.” My mom’s story brings me to tears every time I have to repeat as I did weeks ago applying for a national fellowship and answering the question, “who affected your career most.” My parents faced adversity, but stood tall to make a better life for us.
Like how I worded that? The world of the “non-profit” or “501c3” seems to be very misunderstood. 501c3 is in fact a section of the tax code that allows a CORPORATION created for PUBLIC CHARITABLE purposes to be tax exempt (this is a simplified explanation of course). There are also many other non-profit tax statuses an organization can have.
This is a topic that has come up over and over lately in my day to day, so I felt inclined to share.
Growing up I had an aversion to pink. Why pink? Because girls were supposed to wear pink. Throughout my entire life I have taken issue with being categorized. I was a tom boy until highschool when I was forced more or less to keep speed. I could throw a football (still can), I had a mean baseball pitch, I was a golfer, and took great pride in my 49er jersey. Basically, anytime I was supposed to do something because I was x y z, I did the complete opposite. I have always been good at following directions, and a grounded, law abiding citizen, but I bent and broke things often in order to rebuild them differently. When I was young I was quiet and shy outside my household (which was probably for the best). I always had one best friend and liked it that way.
And why would you want 100%?
People change, things change and the workplace changes with generations. We have all learned from our parents and grandparents. I can’t say being a millennial is any different than any other generation entering the workforce; however, the struggles of the masses hit close to home. I wanted to openly write to baby boomer employers looking to hire younger promising employees.
Generally I do an entire blog to review my past year’s goals, but this year I don’t feel it’s necessary given my mid-year review and really just wanting 2015 to be over with! I write a lot about how being an entrepreneur is the hardest thing someone will do, especially as a woman and this year showed that. I will do a brief overview.
I love Facebook, I hate Facebook. I think many of us have this love hate relationship with social media. On the one hand we love to stay connected with our friends and family and on the other we hate being bombarded by complete social media garbage. I always tell my friends and colleagues seeking self-branding assistance that the first thing they need to do is establish their identity and treat their social media as a main point of outreach. I’m not in the business of telling people what their identity or story is, but I am in the business of helping people establish and tell a cohesive story.
Let me start by saying I know very little of the backstory and perhaps don’t really want to know, but as an avid AirBnB supporter I would genuinely like to see them get it together. I am not actually a resident of San Francisco and did not vote on Prop F, but would like to know, did anyone actually think that it was going to pass? I certainly didn’t.
The “Healthy People” Report sanctioned by the US Department of Health and Human Services gives us a definition of Public health based on the “The Social Determinants of Health.” This definition, as I have always understood public health to be, has not been the prominent definition used on the ground and is very misunderstood if known at all. The Social Determinants of Health represent the aspects that contribute to health beyond the traditional definition of individual health that included research, disease, data, genetics, and averages. We understand now that many other factors contribute to the health of a population including access to health and mental health services, education, environment and built environment, economic stability, and social support. I add to these determinants, technology. I have tried for some time to categorize technology however I thoroughly believe it is its own area overlapping with all others.
I want to start by defining "entrepreneur" as it is defined in the dictionary, yah know that heavy, bound, 1000 page book dusty in your local library,
"a person who organizes and manages any enterprise, especially a business, usually with considerable initiative and risk."
Last night I was sitting at a local restaurant enjoying a vodka martini, which is a normal occurrence on a Monday as it has become my alone or #Bachelorette day, when I met a nice couple sitting next to me. After a few drinks and small talk the girl leaned over while her “boyfriend” was in the bathroom. She looked at me and said, “he cheats on me and lies, but he’s so charming and nice right?” I’m sure as it always does, my face said exactly what I was thinking but I calmly replied, ‘so is he cheating or are you not in a committed relationship? That’s under your control.’ I disengaged because I didn’t really know what to say and more importantly didn’t want to get involved at that moment in time.
I consider myself lucky because my birthday falls pretty close to the middle of the year. I can use the time to not only celebrate the prior age, but to assess the first 6 months of the year. While I feel loved on my birthday, I have felt loved on many occasions throughout 2015 so far. I thought I would take the opportunity to share my experience by reviewing the progress on my 2015 New Year Goals.
A facebook post just wasn’t going to do it this year! I decided to do a full reflection on this crazy and amazing year I have had as a business owner turned an official entrepreneur. This blog doesn’t focus on the individual events of the year but more on the recurring themes that contributed to my personal development in 2014.